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So i am sure some of you out there are in long term relationships. well i have been dating my boyfriend for almost 4 years and after a while you realize some of the romance is gone. You are over that initial excitement every time he says “i love you” because by this time it is so much deeper than the words. Well just because a relationship is long term, doesnt mean it has to lose all romance. little things are the best romance. I have been looking into ideas on EASY ways to keep romance alive through various magazine articles and websites. Also, a lot of guys don’t really know what to do to be a little romantic aside from the usual anniversary cards where they write a little something to remind their other half how they feel. Well romance shouldn’t only last a day a year. so here are some quick and super easy tips that i have come across, and personally i would LOVE any or ALL of this… so go ahead fellas, this is lady approved.

ps.this is a G-rated post so sorry you Fifty Shades of Grey addicts, this isnt going to get kinky.

• once a week, as you listen to your IPOD on your commute home from work or school, pick one of the songs/ or lyrics on shuffle that totally reminds you of her/him. text it to her/him and believe me, just the fact you were thinking of them romantically on a random moment on your commute will be more than enough to get those butterflies (given that the lyric isn’t “you make me sicker then the days are long….”
• remember :Romance has a different meaning for each person; therefore, there is not a right or wrong way to be romantic. Learning how to express your love in the way that your lover will appreciate is the best way to be considered as romantic.
• When you have to fill up your gas tank and are paying cash, on your way back to the car after you paid, pick up a favorite candy bar/drink or a little something at the counter that made u think of her/him. It lets your love know that you look to make them happy even by little things and they were on your mind. ( TOOO SWEEEET)
• If you come across a store that sells flowers, or those crazy ladys selling random shit, if its cheap buy it, just because. write on the card a corny inscription to go along with the corny gift. You will both have a laugh when you give it to her or him. Laughing makes the heart grow fonder =)
• THIS ONE IS FREE… one night after a dinner at home take her dancing in your backyard under the stars. or even in the kitchen while cleaning up. You wanting to be close to her in a non sexual way is more than enough to make her swoon.

• Write your lover a letter/email during the day or late at night so it is something they will recieve unexpectadly. It can be long and explaining how important they are to you and why you love them, or just a “hey i hope your day is going well, mine would be better if we were together.”

• when on a long line , never hold back hugs, little touches on the back, or arms, and little unexpected kisses.

Well here are a few ideas… reblog and add some of your own.

so i am reading a romantic book and whenever i read novels, they in turn inspire me to write. i don’t know why but this book made me start day dreaming about the beginning and before the beginning of my now relationship. I found myself smiling uncontrollably. I have realized that there are three different alex’s (my boyfriend). there is the Alex i wondered about, the big mystery. There is crush Alex, the one i crushed on hard in different stages of my life, and there’s the Alex who i fell in love with and am still in love with.

He and I went to the same grammar school. He was two years older then me and was always so cute. Then when he graduated, he came back over the summer and helped out at the camp i was at. He would sit on the side and hang out with the older kids that helped. This was the first time i really began my crush and started liking him. I used to braid my best friend’s hair over the summer. She came to the camp with it like that and there was a point when he wanted me to braid his hair too. I will never forget how i felt when he actually talked directly to me. I was so nervous i couldn’t even believe it. i touched his hair but i knew my nerves would get in the way if i ever attempted to braid his hair so i told him it was way too short. lol. that was the moment i just felt like the crush had begun. When i had gotten my dog, chocolate Labrador retriever  and my mom would bring him to pick me up at camp, Alex always petted him and liked him. so i felt we had sooo much in common lol. oh a seventh grade heart. then Alex went off to high school and i would just get glances of him through the neighborhood. once at McDonald’s drive through, once at a red light

and once at a block party. it was the first time i had really seen him up close since camp. i HAD to talk to him. i must have passed where he was standing about 10 times hoping he would say hi first but be never did.  Then i just went over and kissed him hello. to my fear he had seemed sooooooo uncomfortable with the kiss on the cheek. i vowed never to do that again if i saw him. we talked about the only thing i knew about him, F.I.T. after a minute of the voice in my head screaming “WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING STANDING HERE ACTING LIKE U ARE LONG LOST FRIENDS CARA” i said goodbye and walked back to my friends.

i added him on myspace to wish him a happy birthday once and then again when i saw he had the same looking chocolate lab as me. i left two comments with little responses, i thought that would be the end of our romance.

When i was in college i had to do hours in a school for class, so i immediately thought of going to my old grammar school and working with his mom. perhaps i would get info on him or he might even GOD WILLINGLY walk in while i was there! lol —-ok now i see what a creeeeep i am—— To my disappointment, he didn’t grace us with his presence but i did get to see some of his artwork in the classroom.

in 2008, i was working at Gap and he and his mom walked in. i could feel the sweat starting to form on my temples. so many thoughts racing ——hows my hair, i’m glad i wore this, its decent, dont kiss him hello—- i walk over to his mom and kissed her. I made small talk hopeing he would see how friendly i am. She told me about his job i think, i cant recall our convo bc i was so focused. I saw him by the belts and he glanced over at us talking and then walked over to us. i acted like i don’t notice but then !!!!! HE KISSSED MEEEEEEEE ON THE CHEEK!! he took the first step and im like omg!  from that point i was flushed and starting to sweat and couldn’t look at his face bc i know he will see right through me to how nervous i am and how i like him… i ring them up with my head down or my eyes on his mom. i can feel his stare on me but i never look back up. I coax him into opening a gap card but he doesn’t have an ID on him. So i casually drop that i’ll be working friday if he wants to come in and open a card. he agrees. I NEVER THOUGHT HE WOULD COME BACK.

Friday comes. my best friend and i are working. I didn’t even bother telling her about him because i doubt he will ever come back, just in case i made sure to wear a nice shirt and did my hair. he comes in!!!! i was standing in the front folding mens jeans. i was like hey you’re back, you wanna shop around first or just try for the card. He points to the belts and undershirts so i go to the register. AGAIN i cannot look at him. i start punching in his info, beat red in the face and he doesn’t get approved!! i felt awful. i ask my BEST FRIEND/ MANAGER if i can give him a discount anyway and she said ” You need the barcode, no sorry.” i was mortifiedddddddddddddddddd. i apologize about not getting accepted and he is so gracious and said its ok and he leaves. Then i tell her all about him.

3 days later he myspace messages me :

today for class i had to sit through a movie, that i thought was going to be terrible. i dreaded it and low and behold it was really crazy and interesting. the movie was mostly through the eyes of a 42 (?) year old man who had a stroke in his brain stem while driving in the car with his young son. It left him paralyzed and living with “locked in syndrome.” throughout the movie, you hear his inner dialogue because he can’t speak but is completely cognitively in tact. throughout the movie, he reminisces about times in his life that were good and not so good. and realizes how he took things for granted.

WAKE UP CALL

this made me want to call my boyfriend up and tell him i don’t want stupid little tiffs ever. I NEVER EVER WANT TO HAVE EVERYTHING TAKEN AWAY AND REGRETTING DUMB ASS PROBLEMS THAT TURN INTO BIG STUPID THINGS.

so girls. DON’T MAKE STUPID LITTLE THINGs CAUSE FIGHTS WITH THE MEN YOU LOVE. its pointless, and u never ever know when your world can get turned upside down.